偽時，感覺到委屈並不代表著軟弱。
後來，我逐漸發覺，這種特殊的痛苦感並非僅是我對個人經歷的體驗，當面對諸多人類不公時——小動物被虐待的故事、毫無緣由的暴力事件、大屠殺的紀錄片、現代戰爭的暴行——我能感受到同樣的哽咽和酸楚。
然而，我所為之悲慟的，並非受害者，他們的靈魂並沒有被惡魔佔據。我的悲慟，是為那些誤導無辜者的人們，他們有意讓自己失去了生命中唯一有價值的東西，失去了唯一能給生命賦予價值的東西。
他們讓自己否定和遠離了作為一個人所應該體驗到的善良和美好。對他們而言，無所謂希望，也無從拯救。
如今，當我的眼淚為他們而流時，我已不再感到羞愧。
With marital breakdown and single parenthood increasing； step…families are being more and more mon。 Such relationships are never easy。 Indeed； the worst mistake people make is to pretend they are。
Having witnessed first…hand the powerful emotions ruling the responses of those involved in family arrangements not of their choosing； I can’t help noting； with interest that women who have a family and re…marry tend to be apologetic to their new partner for saddling him with another man’s issue； whereas a man with a family is much more likely to be apologetic towards his progeny for replacing their mother in his affections。
In the first instance； children are made to feel that they are an undesired； undesirable appendage； in the other； the children appoint themselves critical； resentful judges of their father’s choice。 Neither is conducive to harmonious co…existence； or a healthy psychological climate。
We all need the family as a fortable and secure base camp： a place to prepare for life’s battles and recover in between campaigns。
All members of a troop have an equal right to its facilities。 So let’s forget about apologizing。 Support each other； irrespective of blood ties； the way no one else will。
A man I know is a troubled soul。 Mid…life； he had a breakdown。 In therapy he was told to make a list of things he felt he couldn’t cope with； and overleaf； write down what he most enjoyed。
“Well done；” said the therapist； as he handed in